Passage Two Ask any group of parents to describe their eighth graders （八年级学生）,and you’ll get a surprising—and often contradictory—range of responses.Eighth graders are often quiet and shy,yet they're often loud and frank.They keep pushing you away,yet they're still deeply influenced by everything you say and do.They can make a perfectly reasonable argument as to why they should be allowed to date,yet they can't seem to understand your perfectly reasonable argument for why they should wait.They want to be individuals,yet they want desperately to fit in. Welcome to the eighth grade!Your child is now a full-grown teenager,and she'll experience great physical,emotional,and intellectual（智力的）changes during this dramatic year.As she moves from childhood to adulthood （成年）,she'll begin to look like a young woman,and she'll begin to struggle for the independence of adulthood,for which she's not quite ready yet.Your teenager will experience changes and feel emotions she won't always understand.As a result,she'll sometimes feel a little lost or scared,and often very confused as she struggles to figure out who she is and who she wants to be. That is where you come in.As much as your eighth grader may push you away,as much as you may feel she doesn't want you around,she does want you to be involved in her life.She needs you to know what's happening to her and around her,especially in school where she may face pressure to fit in and where she'll face a curiculum that challenges her developing reasoning skills.As the saying goes, “Little kids,little problems;big kids,big problems.”And your big kid will need you to help her work those problems out.